For a Good Time Call...

Many years ago it was common to see written on the wall in men's restrooms, "For a good time call..." Then a girl's name and phone number was listed.  

The well known song, "867-5309/Jenny" by Tommy Tutone was about this very subject.  It went to #4 on the Billboard charts in 1982. I bet you know that number, even if you are too young to remember Tommy Tutone, and probably even if you didn't listen to pop music in those years.

Certainly this practice of putting a girls number on a bathroom wall was not to tell others of an enjoyable platonic relationship that was to be found in that person. It was saying that this girl could be expected to make the guys happy in a physical way. It was most likely, an attack on her character and an insult toward a girl who had broken his heart. 

Today what you might see on a men's restroom wall would make a sailor blush. But that's not the point here, and neither is the fact that angry young men once used a saying like this to strike back at a girl who had hurt them. The point is that physical pleasure in the right setting, with the right partner, is a good time and should be celebrated. Not so publicly as on a men's room wall, but it should be celebrated none the less. Yet if not carefully guarded, sexual desire will destroy a good life.

God ordained married sex. That's all. No other type of sex is validated in scripture. As a matter of fact all other forms are strictly condemned by God. Premarital sex, extramarital sex, homosexuality, or any other form of unmarried sex, is not biblical and is unacceptable before God according to scripture. God though, chose that a man and a woman should enjoy one another in a physical way, and designed it to be pleasurable for both within the boundaries of marriage. He also designed it so that some of the most personal, tender, and intimate times of marriage happen within this context, so as to strengthen the marriage and create a life-long bond between the husband and his wife. During this marital connection the scripture comes true that the husband and wife become one.  This is certainly not just a physical analogy.  We become one is spirit, in hope, in emotion, in love and so much more. We need to also remember that scripture actually instructs us to not to "defraud one another" (1 Cor. 7:5) of this right! Look that up... Defraud actually means, to deprive of a right or privilege.  

Some scriptures are pretty explicit. Lest I say something that would cause you to think I am speaking too candidly, I'll let God's word speak for me.  (By the way, The Song of Solomon may be more explicit that even this passage.)

Proverbs 5:15-20 HCSB says, 

"Drink water from your own cistern, water flowing from your own well. 16 Should your springs flow in the streets, streams of water in the public squares? 17 They should be for you alone and not for you [to share] with strangers. 18 Let your fountain be blessed, and take pleasure in the wife of your youth. 19 A loving doe, a graceful fawn- let her breasts always satisfy you; be lost in her love forever. 20 Why, my son, would you be infatuated with a forbidden woman or embrace the breast of a stranger? "

Sex has become a multi-billion dollar business and has been perverted to to point that it's difficult to even talk about in Christian circles. Yet God's desire is that you enjoy your wife, men of God. (Daughters of God, enjoy your husband.) This subject needs to be addressed, and proper biblical thought on the matter needs to be discreetly taught in the church. 

Don't ever allow your passions to burn for anyone else whether real or fictional; on the beach, in a magazine, in a romance novel, or on a computer screen. Don't look too long at anything that tempts you.  Don't look at pornography with your eyes, or allow the thoughts of it to stay in your heart.  Don't even 'innocently' flirt with someone at the office. Don't find comfort or pleasure in the physical, or emotional, attention of another. Remember God's gift to you at home, and be captivated by the love of your own spouse. Reserve the deepest intimacy, of any type, for the two of you alone. 

Some might say "Stolen water tastes sweeter", "food eaten in secret tastes better", but Proverbs 9:16-17 teaches us that this is a lie perpetrated by a seductress. Stolen water is NOT sweeter, the grass is NOT greener in another pasture.  Pastor, Satan is looking to trip you up! As a leader in the Body of Christ, you are a big target. Don't let 'a moment of pleasure' sow seeds that will cause you to reap 'a lifetime of pain'. In other words: "For a good time call... your wife" men of God. (Daughters of God, call your husband.) Your spouse is a gift from God, to only you!